3 Tips On How To Be Confident Authentically Posting On Social Media Without Second-Guessing

Authentically showing up online – I’ve been struggling with this so much and just never knew how to be confident when posting on social media. It’s been one of my biggest desires ever to not only be able but to master being my true authentic self in front of the camera, without staging or overthinking it.
Why would you care about that you might think.
Well if you can make a video after just waking up, sharing your thoughts without questioning how you look or come off, without second-guessing or obsessing whether you should put makeup on or use filters – to me that’s a sign that you truly have mastered self-image.

Quick disclaimer at the beginning:  I’m not saying don’t use makeup or filters, what I’m saying is there is a difference between whether you need them in order to feel ready or worthy to post. Also keep in mind that I am using ‘talking in front of the camera’ as an example because that is what I am doing and a lot of other people are trying to do. If you are, for example, painting then it’s probably gonna be more about showing how you create art.

This has been such a long journey for me. I went from not ever trying to be in front of the camera – to believing in myself that I actually have something to say that can help others – to posting online but being overly cautious about angles, how I look, and what others might think of me.

This blog post especially is for people who want to show up online authentically and share their true unique gifts with the world but this can also help you if you’re trying to build overall confidence.

Real confidence goes way beyond posting online but I find this a good tool to measure your self-image and true confidence.
How fine are we with ourselves when we can’t show up online as our true authentic selves? It is scary.
I mean once you start, half a million people could see you as in tomorrow, judge you, criticize you, make fun of you, and call you ugly or stupid.
This is no joke and as people like to say you need tough skin when showing up online.
True but it doesn’t have to be like this  – let me explain in depth.
I’m gonna get you to literally be neutral about authentically posting online.

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I guess it hits differently if you post content in which you are your true authentic self vs. “perfectly” gorgeous looking and then someone hates on you because you then can just put them in the jealousy box.

The more we are ourselves the more vulnerable we are. We open our hearts. How much are you opening your heart when you post a perfect video of yourself? I mean what could they possibly say to break you? That you are ugly while 1000 other people back you up under those comments saying how beautiful you look.

I’ve done this so many times. I posted videos and photos, back when I did travel content and I would always make sure that I’d look as perfect as I could so the chance that someone would hate on me could be as small as possible.

Little did I know – the higher your self-image (the way you see yourself and perceive others to see you) – the more confidence and love for yourself you feel from within. You then don’t have the urge to prove yourself to anybody anymore, because you already know your strengths and uniquely beautiful attributes (inside & out) and you love yourself for them!

As I already said – showing up online as my true authentic self, without questioning if I should post, if I look good, or if what I say could come off as silly – has been one of my greatest achievements in life and I’m finally doing it.

If you can show up online – potentially in front of millions of people – without giving a f*ck what anybody says and not looking “pretty, appropriate, etc.” (as in beauty standards or society would say so) then you really got confidence!
Because I say so haha jk that’s at least my observation and experience but let me know what you think.

I managed to put a few things I did into words that really helped me on my journey from being extremely shy in front of the camera and overthinking anything and everything to now making videos in bed without wearing makeup.

1. Fall in Love with your uniquely authentic qualities & attributes

In order to show up online as your true authentic self while being fully confident, you gotta fall in love with who you are at your core! There are a few ways to do that but what helped me the most was looking at the things I didn’t like about myself and then neutralizing them by understanding why that part of me is exactly perfect the way it is.

Example: I used to not like my legs, like at all. I thought they were overly bulky-looking and that not in a good way haha. They are kinda randomly strong I guess you could say.
Beauty standards had gaslighted me into wanting skinny legs plus the perfect amount of muscles at the right spots – tf is that? haha

I finally understood that my legs are exactly perfect for me because I need strong legs for my hobbies & passions.
One of my biggest passions in life is the ocean and freediving.
My random strong legs come in handy for that, which is exactly why my soul chose them for me.
Do you see how what I assumed to be a bad thing is actually a really good thing?
Would I rather have skinny legs because society says that it would be more feminine but maybe not be such a good swimmer without ever practicing – NO! I like being a good swimmer for no reason haha.

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Another example: way too many times have I been told that I am too sensitive, already as a child, I was even called an actress when I was sad and started crying.

Listen up – being vulnerable, and being able to feel and show my emotions is one of my biggest strengths!
How else would I talk about trauma healing? It also makes me insanely empathetic and understanding toward other people. This whole entire blog and all the other things I’m doing online wouldn’t make any sense if I wasn’t being vulnerable.
Do you need to be vulnerable when talking about finances? Not really! About this stuff? Comes in handy!

2. Do things that bring you fun & joy

When you do things that put you in a truly fun and joyful mood then it’s also easier to love life and be yourself! And the more you do that – the more confidence you gain.

For me, it is dancing! When I first started dancing at home I was very shy and overly self cautious but the more I’ve been doing it the more confident I feel in the very moment. Nobody is watching you so do whatever feels right. Sometimes we have to search for that thing first but I think for a lot of people dancing, singing or art, in general, is gonna help.

I definitely noticed a change in how I’m feeling when I’m dancing.
The more often you do something the better you get at being comfortable doing it.
That’s how we grow confidence in pretty much anything we do.
Always keep in mind that doing things such as dancing or singing is your birthright.
There is no dance police!
When you are truly feeling joy and fun from a heart place – it’s never wrong.
We have to disconnect from only being allowed to do things when they are good enough and or society agrees.

When you do something that lights you up – it makes you magnetic! And that’s the energy you carry around in that moment and maybe even throughout your day.

This might not make sense right now, you just have to try it out and also keep doing it!!
Also always remember aiming for fun and joy is one of the most important things in life and it actually doesn’t really matter what that is as long as we do something in that direction.

3. Understand that “flaws” are based on beauty standards 

I have never ever in my entire life questioned my lips until it became this huge trend to get lip fillers back a few years ago.
I then started noticing girls with bigger lips than mine (naturally and unnaturally) because whatever you put your focus on your brain then searches for similarities.

I subconsciously started to create the belief that my lips were too small.
I would then ask myself: do I need lip fillers???

First of all, there is no lip police that determines which lips are too small or too big.
Second: this entire belief has been created based on what I saw online and assumed to be true.

This is how beauty standards are created.
Someone does it or starts doing it for any reason. Society decides that this now looks better than before and we all follow because we don’t wanna be the ones not being liked by society.
We now subconsciously believe that not looking a certain way makes us less than.

I know this is a sensitive topic and I don’t shame anybody ever for doing anything similar as the example I chose.
Keep in mind everything in this universe is both – fully positive and negative at once.

And there is still preference, but how often has preference been created based on beauty standards?

Do not fall for beauty standards! It’s literally all made up. You can so easily tell by how quickly they change too.
If there was a trend starting tomorrow that now small lips are fine then everyone would do that. It’s so not worth it to put your entire value and worthiness and suffer from sleepless nights because of what society decides is acceptable, pretty or good-looking.

I really hope this could help you! There is so much more I could say to this but I’ll leave it at that.